All children and adults are treated with equal care and concern, and are made to feel welcome in my home. I aim to offer a quality childcare service for parents and children. I recognise the need to set out reasonable and appropriate limits to help the children in my care to manage their own behaviour.
I have training under the STEP (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting) program who’s renowned psychologists, D. Dinkmeyer and Gary D. McKay, developed in late 1970’s.
- Behaviour: IE: Snatching. If a child snatches I will be discussing the behaviour and the emotions she/he is feeling behind the behaviour. (Anger, frustration) “I can see you are feeling angry because you don’t have that toy.”
- Decisions: IE: “You can play with something else or you can wait kindly for your friend to finish playing with this?”
- Consequences: The child might have a tantrum so I take him/her to a safe place away from the other children and wait for him to finish his tantrum. When he/she does I comfort him/her and welcome him back to play. If the child decides to take any of the options we respect the decision and carry on.
As well as following the above method of Behaviour management I will be:
Promoting positive behaviour is very important and I do this by:
- giving lots of praise for good behaviour;
- giving the children individual attention so they know they are valued;
- setting a good example and being a good role model;
- listening to what the children have to say;
- rewarding good behaviour (choosing next activity etc.);
- setting clear and consistent boundaries for children to follow;
- ensuring that children understand what is expected of them and why.
I do not, and will not, administer physical (or any other form of) punishment with the intention of causing pain or discomfort, nor any kind of humiliating or hurtful treatment to any child in my care. I will only physically intervene, and possibly restrain, a child to prevent an accident, such as a child running into the lakes, or to prevent an injury or damage.
Please do let us know ASAP of any changes in a child’s circumstances, care arrangements or any other change which may affect the child’s behaviour, such as a new baby, parents’ separation, divorce, new partner or any bereavement. All information shared will be kept confidential unless there appears to be a child protection issue.
The STEP approach to parenting is based on the belief that every child an every parent has equal human worth and dignity. All are entitled to mutual respect. The authors believe that parents/carers should provide opportunities for children to make decisions, within limits, allowing children to be responsible for their decisions. See graph below. In accordance to my ethos, I will also be inviting any willing parent to join in any of the talks I will be giving to explain this method further.